| Finding someone with whom you want to establish a committed relationship is hard, but making the relationship lifelong may be a lot harder. There is hardly a relationship without conflicts. The way in which we manage these conflict situations will determine our personalities. Some spouses will face harder challenges and this may either cause them to grow strong together or force them to break off. Then there are the families that face large conflict situations that occur because of children moving from tweens to teens. Regardless of the cause, conflict is unavoidable and we all need to face it sooner or later. And to save the relationship we should learn to resolve conflicts and work on the relationship using diverse tactics.
Evolutionary scientists examined "mate retention tactics" in American men and ladies and found these strategies include being excessively watchful and threatening violence. Different gender strategies to keep their marriages intact were discovered.
To evaluate qualities valued in partners and how they save relationships, researchers of the University of Texas assessed 214 married people.
Men, more than ladies, admitted that they exploited their social status and financial success as a tactic to keep their mate interested in them, said the authors. Men also reported to keep their spouses interested by promising changes and making threats of sexual betrayal.
Ladies were also more likely than men to take care of their physical look, thus keeping men interested.
As far as infidelity goes, it was found out that if a husband suspected that his wife was having an affair, he would try and keep his wife from public activities, threaten punishment and criticize other men. It is interesting to know, ladies who suspected their husbands of infidelity did not work on the marriage any harder than those without suspicions.
Unfortunately, some men's tactics included some minor forms of physical abuse of wives, reported the psychologists. For example, in an earlier study, 72 percent of women requiring medical care admitted that their husbands limited their contact with family and friends, insisted on knowing the ladies' whereabouts and insulted women. |
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